My personal solution to the very same problem. I could see that living this way, thinking this way, was of no benefit to me. I saw that I would have much great

My personal solution to the very same problem. I could see that living this way, thinking this way, was of no benefit to me. I saw that I would have much greater benefit by breaking the chain of this behavior, and becoming comfortable in my own skin. I know that these days, the more common refrain is to 'just be who you are and let the chips fall where they may'. I realized also though the behavior of catering to this desire was self limiting. There are many times in life when you will have to go it alone to be successful. Just some advice from someone else who solved this differently. May you have the best of luck, no matter what happens.