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This is very interesting writing but it's a "so what". What if she had found out that her boyfriend fantasizes about other women that he sees? [1] If trolling

by gist 11y ago

This is very interesting writing but it's a "so what". What if she had found out that her boyfriend fantasizes about other women that he sees? [1] If trolling (and I don't like that term btw) makes him happy in some way, then what is wrong with that? It's not a drug habit or that type of "addiction". It's not overeating. It's not harming small pets or children. (Ditto for fantasies). I say "better that than some other potentially harmful things. My wife doesn't know that I comment here. I am sure she might view it as a waste of time and laugh at me. But I don't know what she does that might be equivalent. I don't know how she spends here day (and I don't want to know). If people do something that is relatively harmless why does it need to be criticized? Troll is a very loose term anyway. A way of putting someone down often and painting them in a bad light (same way eccentric paints a rich person in a good light vs. "crazy"). [1] Because you know that he does that and she probably does as well (about men that is) it's the type of thing that people typically keep secret. Ditto for viewing porn. She wouldn't be happy (neither would I) but really why does this matter?

femngi 11y ago
It's concerning because it reveals something about the way he views other people. There's an old saying that you should carefully watch how your date treats the waiting staff because that is how they will treat you one day. The fact that Internet trolling has become commonplace doesn't make it acceptable. I don't say that just because it damages the emotions of the victim but because it tends to warp the minds of those that perpetrate it. To the OP I would say that she should be extremely careful in trying to tackle this herself which is what she sounds like she is trying to do. I wish the best for both her and Chris.

by gist 11y ago

femngi 11y ago

It's concerning because it reveals something about the way he views other people. There's an old saying that you should carefully watch how your date treats the waiting staff because that is how they will treat you one day. The fact that Internet trolling has become commonplace doesn't make it acceptable. I don't say that just because it damages the emotions of the victim but because it tends to warp the minds of those that perpetrate it. To the OP I would say that she should be extremely careful in trying to tackle this herself which is what she sounds like she is trying to do. I wish the best for both her and Chris.