I'm not assuming. He edited his post with a story which has absolutely nothing to do with the kind of thing we're dealing with here. Being in a high stress job

I'm not assuming. He edited his post with a story which has absolutely nothing to do with the kind of thing we're dealing with here. Being in a high stress job and being able to leave it to get a better one is not the same thing as being in a situation where you cannot lose your job lest you risk your children, your home etc. And even without such an edit, it's ridiculously easy to tell he hasn't been in that situation. If you go around telling people "pah, they just need a fresh start, new job, new wife", you've not been in a situation where you understand this isn't always an option. Good for you, but you live in one hell of a bubble.