> Parents who instead say, "Wow, you put in a lot of effort," teach their children that the success is based on factors that you can control, like how much effo

> Parents who instead say, "Wow, you put in a lot of effort," teach their children that the success is based on factors that you can control, like how much effort you put in and how prepared you are and what you do. These kids do a lot better in life. This is doing the same thing these parents are doing: "I was brought up this way, it's not my fault/I can't do anything about it" ;)