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I'm intrigued by your viewing platform. My brain instantly wants to reject it too. Also, it seems like it could lead to a lot of self-recrimination and beating
by J-dawg 11y ago
I'm intrigued by your viewing platform. My brain instantly wants to reject it too. Also, it seems like it could lead to a lot of self-recrimination and beating yourself up. Why should I feel responsible for someone else cutting me up in traffic?
I feel like I'm probably misunderstanding something fundamental. Seeing as we seem to be on the same wavelength I'd like to try harder to understand it.
I have lived in a (self-created) world of blame, excuses and regret. Especially regret! Anything that helps to move away from that can only be a good thing.
- overdrivetg 11y agoThe way I've found to reframe that conversation: For some reason I chose for that person to cut me off in traffic. What message am I trying to send to myself? Or maybe by being cut off now, I prevented myself from being in a fatal accident a few minutes down the road... The other thing I find liberating about this platform is that you give yourself permission to always take responsibility for things. Someone is angry at you for something? No problem, sorry, my fault, I'll try and do better. If all they needed was to be heard/acknowledged/an apology, you're all good. I can't tell you how many situations are smoothed over with this one. And if they need more, you're in charge of deciding whether or not to offer it or to do something else. Very glad to see this come up on here!
- JacobAldridge 11y agoApologies for the delayed response - my email is in my profile, so feel free to drop me a note with yours and I'll send you some links etc that might be of use. Thanks for your sharing in this thread! Jacob