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Cheers. Re: the Self-Agency stuff, I agree completely. I've personally selected the psychological viewing platform that "I create the whole of my own reality".

Cheers. Re: the Self-Agency stuff, I agree completely. I've personally selected the psychological viewing platform that "I create the whole of my own reality". [1] The key word is "whole" - with this perspective, I am 100% responsible for everything that happens in my world. I get cut off in traffic - I created that; a song comes on the radio - I created that song. Now, intellectually, it's complete BS. My brain will never accept that extreme level of self-agency. And I don't pretend I do an amazing job of living it all day every day. But from a happiness perspective? (Hence referring to it as a 'viewing platform' - one perspective on the world.) It's incredible. Fundamentally liberating because I don't live in a world of blame, excuses, regret, other people letting me down. Something incredible happens - I take full responsibility. Something terrible happens - I take full responsibility. Perhaps a little too 'out there' for most, but I'm happier than I was before and I believe that self-agency filter I choose for everything is the reason. [1] See http://www.openup.com.au http://www.openup.com.au And yep - I found them through my father. Man that guy knows everyone!

J-dawg 11y ago
I'm intrigued by your viewing platform. My brain instantly wants to reject it too. Also, it seems like it could lead to a lot of self-recrimination and beating yourself up. Why should I feel responsible for someone else cutting me up in traffic? I feel like I'm probably misunderstanding something fundamental. Seeing as we seem to be on the same wavelength I'd like to try harder to understand it. I have lived in a (self-created) world of blame, excuses and regret. Especially regret! Anything that helps to move away from that can only be a good thing.
- overdrivetg 11y ago
  The way I've found to reframe that conversation: For some reason I chose for that person to cut me off in traffic. What message am I trying to send to myself? Or maybe by being cut off now, I prevented myself from being in a fatal accident a few minutes down the road... The other thing I find liberating about this platform is that you give yourself permission to always take responsibility for things. Someone is angry at you for something? No problem, sorry, my fault, I'll try and do better. If all they needed was to be heard/acknowledged/an apology, you're all good. I can't tell you how many situations are smoothed over with this one. And if they need more, you're in charge of deciding whether or not to offer it or to do something else. Very glad to see this come up on here!
- JacobAldridge 11y ago
  Apologies for the delayed response - my email is in my profile, so feel free to drop me a note with yours and I'll send you some links etc that might be of use. Thanks for your sharing in this thread! Jacob
csn 11y ago
That reminds me of solipsism* : the idea that your own mind is the only thing surely existing and might contain everything else; the universe, other minds within. * https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solipsism https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solipsism
- arethuza 11y ago
  Sometimes before falling asleep I wonder if the instance of my mind that wakes up is really the same mind or just someone else with the same memories and body as my mind. Fortunately this doesn't actually stop me falling asleep.
  - Tyr42 11y ago
    I have a friend who habitually says "goodbye forever" before going off to sleep. It makes you think.

J-dawg 11y ago

I'm intrigued by your viewing platform. My brain instantly wants to reject it too. Also, it seems like it could lead to a lot of self-recrimination and beating yourself up. Why should I feel responsible for someone else cutting me up in traffic? I feel like I'm probably misunderstanding something fundamental. Seeing as we seem to be on the same wavelength I'd like to try harder to understand it. I have lived in a (self-created) world of blame, excuses and regret. Especially regret! Anything that helps to move away from that can only be a good thing.

overdrivetg 11y ago
The way I've found to reframe that conversation: For some reason I chose for that person to cut me off in traffic. What message am I trying to send to myself? Or maybe by being cut off now, I prevented myself from being in a fatal accident a few minutes down the road... The other thing I find liberating about this platform is that you give yourself permission to always take responsibility for things. Someone is angry at you for something? No problem, sorry, my fault, I'll try and do better. If all they needed was to be heard/acknowledged/an apology, you're all good. I can't tell you how many situations are smoothed over with this one. And if they need more, you're in charge of deciding whether or not to offer it or to do something else. Very glad to see this come up on here!
JacobAldridge 11y ago
Apologies for the delayed response - my email is in my profile, so feel free to drop me a note with yours and I'll send you some links etc that might be of use. Thanks for your sharing in this thread! Jacob

csn 11y ago

That reminds me of solipsism* : the idea that your own mind is the only thing surely existing and might contain everything else; the universe, other minds within. * https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solipsism https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solipsism

arethuza 11y ago
Sometimes before falling asleep I wonder if the instance of my mind that wakes up is really the same mind or just someone else with the same memories and body as my mind. Fortunately this doesn't actually stop me falling asleep.
- Tyr42 11y ago
  I have a friend who habitually says "goodbye forever" before going off to sleep. It makes you think.