Of course it's not "they hate our way of life". Unless "our way of life" is letting our governments run amok destroying their homelands, installing brutal dicta

Of course it's not "they hate our way of life". Unless "our way of life" is letting our governments run amok destroying their homelands, installing brutal dictators and kleptocracies, and selling all their resources to multinational corporations; then when they flee their countries, "we" separate them off into banlieues and exclude them from social and economic participation. Everyone loves the material wealth neoliberalism gives them, but acts completely oblivious when confronted with the pure violence of its operation outside of the western bubble.