So either XMPP is bad because it hasn't changed for years and is therefore old, or else XMPP is bad because there's new replacements for stuff that didn't work

So either XMPP is bad because it hasn't changed for years and is therefore old, or else XMPP is bad because there's new replacements for stuff that didn't work so well. Honestly, there's some days I wonder if there's any way to win.