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>People seem to be so fragile. I don't think being shown your own photos, or photos that people have tagged you in (in accordance with your privacy settings) is
by hobs 11y ago
>People seem to be so fragile. I don't think being shown your own photos, or photos that people have tagged you in (in accordance with your privacy settings) is really a big deal. Get over it.
Have some humanity.
Whether or not it was an algo emotional trauma is real, and telling people to just get over their dead friend or their ex-girlfriend is the height of rudeness.
If Facebook wants to host all the world's personal content then it will have to address problems like these or breed a significant amount of additional human pain.
- peter_bakelaw 11y agoI didn't tell anyone to get over their dead friend. I said to get over being so over-fragile that they're upset at being shown a photo of the friend when you visit a website that is literally designed for photos of you and your friends. If being shown a photo of a friend who died is emotional 'trauma', then I'm not sure how you cope with day-to-day life and I recommend you stay in bed where it is safe.
- al2o3cr 11y agoY'know, if reading about people being emotionally traumatized is so upsetting to you that you have to reply repeatedly then I recommend that you go fuck yourself.
- peter_bakelaw 11y agoI'm not upset by it at all. I'm just calling people out as being unreasonably precious about it. The algorithm they use can't take into account whatever problems you've had over the year. That should be obvious. If you can't handle that, don't go there.
- hairofadog 11y agoOrdinarily, you decide when and how to interact with your photos. I sometimes choose to spend a few minutes looking over collections of photos of dead loved ones; it's often painful and makes me feel vulnerable and it's not something I would want sprung on me while I'm in the office, for example. If Facebook's only purpose was to show you random photos from your past, then the "just don't use it" argument would fly. However, Facebook is trying to be the primary way that people interact with their friends and families. For many people, the option becomes, "interact with your friends and family online and sometimes have painful memories thrust in front of you at inopportune moments" vs "don't interact with your friends and family online". I've chosen the latter - I don't use Facebook. They're probably working on it. Do they really still not have a way to opt out of that? Seems like the obvious solution would be to set it up as opt-in.
- brudgers 11y agoCalling people out is not appropriate behavior on HN. Please stop.
- dang 11y agoPlease don't respond in kind or worse.
- braythwayt 11y ago> get over being so over-fragile Maybe you should get over being such a “tough guy” that you can go online and victim-blame people for having sad feelings. You’re entitled to whatever opinion you want of anybody else, but when you choose to express it, you’re making a decision that can be objectively judged by whether it makes society better or worse. And this kind of victim-blaming has been shown, over and over again, in every avenue, to make communities worse, not better.
- tdkl 11y ago>to make communities worse, not better. Has it really ? Because nowadays when the Internet is full of whiney, sensitive people, who aren't capable to handle their own feelings, the communities break down way faster because of petty shit like this then in "older" days of the Internet in 2001. And with that social attitude they certainly will never get a CHANCE to learn handling those emotions.