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Before I made the changes I found friendships to be anxiety inducing, and I was hopeless with women. Now I do very well with both as a result of learning body l
by graeme 11y ago
Before I made the changes I found friendships to be anxiety inducing, and I was hopeless with women. Now I do very well with both as a result of learning body language. (Of course, I had to take the observations and use them to change my own habits. But body language reading was the necessary element that was missing.)
So it went from pathology to not pathology. Very far from it. My intuition is that I couldn't learn my way out of Aspergers, and so I probably just had a case of poor social skills, in a non-clinical sense.
- tangled_zans 11y agoHmm, yes, I understand where you're coming from. If I can pick your brain a little bit more, I do find what you say about body language to be quite interesting - particularly because I am largely unconscious of mine most of the time. In a broad sense, what sort of changes did you make to the way you present your body language, and what sort of cues do you look for in other people?
- graeme 11y agoI wrote about how I improved here: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11316187 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11316187 That's mostly about improving the reading of body language. Send me a message if you want to know more about the other aspects, probably a bit long to write here. Contact info it in my profile.
- tangled_zans 11y agoYeah that's very interesting, we should defo chat more! I'll send you an e-mail after work.
- iconoclast321 11y ago"Diagnostic labels are like arbitrary geographic borders placed on vast stretches of land" I.e., everything (including personality traits), exists on a continuum. Diagnoses are descriptively labeled points on that continuum.