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From a meditator's perspective, there isn't anything to do other than to witness the underlying suffering, and giving space to the other person to be.
by hosh 11y ago
From a meditator's perspective, there isn't anything to do other than to witness the underlying suffering, and giving space to the other person to be.
- RangerScience 11y agoI have learned parts of that! But this is way broader than dealing with negative emotions - actually, it's other people's attraction that causes this state the strongest.
- hosh 11y agoI know. :-) You should check out the practice in Tsultrim Allione's book, "Demon Feeding: Ancient Wisdom for Resolving Inner Conflict" some time.
- ctrlalt_g 11y agoDo you have any reading recommendations for your practice?
- hosh 11y agoYep. Start with Vipassana. That by itself won't teach the psychology, but it does allow you to clearly experience and see the experiences arising and passing. (But I don't know if people on the autism spectrum needs it, or it would be helpful). Once you can clearly see it, hear it, smell it, feel it, there are a lot of surprising things you can find out just by observing it. Another practice I did for a while to really start examining intense, often unpleasant emotions within myself and others is this: http://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Your-Demons-Resolving-Conflict/dp/0316013137 http://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Your-Demons-Resolving-Conflict... At the end of the day, someone's suffering is their own. By "suffering" I am really talking about dukkha, the Sanskrit word better translated as existential anguish. This is something every person has. It is only when one can clearly see it that they can allow space for someone to work through it. By "witnessing", I am talking about something like practicing vipassana while in the presence of someone suffering. And believe me, that is not as easy as it sounds, neither for the practitioner, or for the person in deep suffering.
- drzaiusapelord 11y agoThat's overly simplistic and frankly trite. The reality is that in the workplace, in society, etc the emotions of others matter a great deal to your personal wellbeing, that is if you don't want to be broke or in jail. Navigating the emotional world is very important and should be taught, not dismissed. As someone who only picked up these skills later in life, its incredible how much life makes sense now. People's emotional responses more or less rule the world. Logic and rationality take a backseat to all of that and being able to gauge other people's emotions and knowing how to respond to them is the difference between failure and success in so many parts of life. Especially if you aspire to any kind of leadership or founder role.
- draw_down 11y agoI'm with you. I've encountered the thinking in GP and thought that way for a while, and ultimately reached the same conclusion as you. It's too easy to use it as a way of dismissing the pain and complexity of the world.
- hosh 11y agoWhat makes you think I was dismissing it? What I was describing is the opposite of dismissing it, and if anything, much healthier. You do realize I was talking about Vipassana and directly experiencing the suffering of others, right?
- hosh 11y agoWhat makes you think I was dismissing it? The method I described is actually quite deep even if on the surface it appears to be simple. It starts with this: http://www.imsb.org/teachings/vipassana-practice/ http://www.imsb.org/teachings/vipassana-practice/ and might wend it's way through something like: http://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Your-Demons-Resolving-Conflict/dp/0316013137 http://www.amazon.com/Feeding-Your-Demons-Resolving-Conflict...