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Another potential explanation is that kids with high empathy spend more time socializing, which is partly why they have higher empathy. And kids with lower empa

Another potential explanation is that kids with high empathy spend more time socializing, which is partly why they have higher empathy. And kids with lower empathy spend less time socializing, and more time on subjects they can do themselves, like math. Note that the effect of socializing -> higher empathy -> better at socializing -> enjoys socializing is a feedback loop.

TheOtherHobbes 11y ago
empathy != extroversion Empathic introverts will spend a lot of time on their own because being hyper-aware of other people's emotions is draining.
- jacobolus 11y ago
  In this case, “empathy quotient” = how the parent answers the following questionnaire: • My child likes to look after other people. • My child often doesn’t understand why some things upset other people so much. • My child would not cry or get upset if a character in a film died. • My child is quick to notice when people are joking. • My child enjoys cutting up worms, or pulling the legs off insects. • My child has stolen something they wanted from their sibling or friend. • My child has trouble forming friendships. • When playing with other children, my child spontaneously takes turns and shares toys. • My child can be blunt giving their opinions, even when these may upset someone. • My child would enjoy looking after a pet. • My child is often rude or impolite without realising it. • My child has been in trouble for physical bullying. • At school, when my child understands something they can easily explain it clearly to others. • My child has one or two close friends, as well as several other friends. • My child listens to others’ opinions, even when different from their own. • My child shows concern when others are upset. • My child can seem so preoccupied with their own thoughts that they don’t notice others getting bored. • My child blames other children for things that they themselves have done. • My child gets very upset if they see an animal in pain. • My child sometimes pushes or pinches someone if they are annoying them. • My child can easily tell when another person wants to enter into conversation with them. • My child is good at negotiating for what they want. • My child would worry about how another child would feel if they weren’t invited to a party. • My child gets upset at seeing others crying or in pain. • My child likes to help new children integrate in class. • My child has been in trouble for name-calling or teasing. • My child tends to resort to physical aggression to get what they want. (For each question, answer is a choice among “strongly agree”, “slightly agree”, “slightly disagree”, and “strongly disagree”. In each case, the “more empathetic” side of the answers is scored either 1 for the “slightly” answer or 2 for the “strongly” answer, whereas both answers on the “less empathetic” side are scored zero. Overall EQ score is the sum of those.)
  - gboudrias 11y ago
    So it's basically a waste of everyone's time?

TheOtherHobbes 11y ago

empathy != extroversion Empathic introverts will spend a lot of time on their own because being hyper-aware of other people's emotions is draining.

jacobolus 11y ago
In this case, “empathy quotient” = how the parent answers the following questionnaire: • My child likes to look after other people. • My child often doesn’t understand why some things upset other people so much. • My child would not cry or get upset if a character in a film died. • My child is quick to notice when people are joking. • My child enjoys cutting up worms, or pulling the legs off insects. • My child has stolen something they wanted from their sibling or friend. • My child has trouble forming friendships. • When playing with other children, my child spontaneously takes turns and shares toys. • My child can be blunt giving their opinions, even when these may upset someone. • My child would enjoy looking after a pet. • My child is often rude or impolite without realising it. • My child has been in trouble for physical bullying. • At school, when my child understands something they can easily explain it clearly to others. • My child has one or two close friends, as well as several other friends. • My child listens to others’ opinions, even when different from their own. • My child shows concern when others are upset. • My child can seem so preoccupied with their own thoughts that they don’t notice others getting bored. • My child blames other children for things that they themselves have done. • My child gets very upset if they see an animal in pain. • My child sometimes pushes or pinches someone if they are annoying them. • My child can easily tell when another person wants to enter into conversation with them. • My child is good at negotiating for what they want. • My child would worry about how another child would feel if they weren’t invited to a party. • My child gets upset at seeing others crying or in pain. • My child likes to help new children integrate in class. • My child has been in trouble for name-calling or teasing. • My child tends to resort to physical aggression to get what they want. (For each question, answer is a choice among “strongly agree”, “slightly agree”, “slightly disagree”, and “strongly disagree”. In each case, the “more empathetic” side of the answers is scored either 1 for the “slightly” answer or 2 for the “strongly” answer, whereas both answers on the “less empathetic” side are scored zero. Overall EQ score is the sum of those.)
- gboudrias 11y ago
  So it's basically a waste of everyone's time?