I worked hard -- or, long -- because I had a shit personal life and neighbors who made it miserable to be at home. And, I was taught early and thoroughly that

I worked hard -- or, long -- because I had a shit personal life and neighbors who made it miserable to be at home. And, I was taught early and thoroughly that there was nothing I could do about such things. Let me tell you, it is a terrible way to live. Working hard and smartly and with fun, which I occasionally got to do, was something different and immensely satisfying. But, if you are "working hard" because life sucks. Get your life in order. The sooner the better, not just for you, but ultimately, for your career. Anyone who says you can't. Or that you have to "pay some sort of dues"? Fuck them. As I overheard in the cafe, the other day -- my paraphrase may not be as snappy as the original: There's one choice where the outcome is 100% certain: Not choosing. Making no choice, taking no action, no chance. The young-ish fellow was advising another young fellow on whether to ask a girl out. As someone who's ended up spending his life alone -- and, is that "not by choice", or, per the above, precisely by choice. Let me tell you, there is no more important choice. Family, friends, lovers, work and interests that matter (however, and, big or small). There is no more important choice. "Work hard" on those.