>I’m not a jerk, I just care too much and want other people to care the same amount. I don't know the real situation, but based on this rationale it sounds lik

>I’m not a jerk, I just care too much and want other people to care the same amount. I don't know the real situation, but based on this rationale it sounds like you were being a jerk. You're not even really denying it, just trying to excuse your behavior because it was in service of some higher goal. That said, acting like a jerk is a behavior, not a permanent attribute. The feedback from your boss should have been about the behaviors you engaged in that negatively impacted the team.