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I know you stated you don't like editing in your post, but I'd highly recommend passing your posts on to a friend who _is_ willing to edit them, before they're

I know you stated you don't like editing in your post, but I'd highly recommend passing your posts on to a friend who _is_ willing to edit them, before they're public. I appreciate the sentiment and resonated with many of the remarks. I could have gotten the same message in about 30% of the words.

jbyers 11y ago
Too long? Don't read it. This is emotionally charged territory for the author. Respect it, and respect him. It takes courage to write like this in public.
- kough 11y ago
  No need for the abrasive tone, the GP was simply offering constructive criticism. Does that not have a place in your idea of respect? If not, why not?
  - PeCaN 11y ago
    Just for the record, I didn't consider the parent's tone to be abrasive at all.
  - jbyers 11y ago
    I found the criticism both non-constructive and selfish. The commenter is welcome to their opinion, but in _this context_ does it need to be said? Has the commenter added value or further reinforced what the author says in the first paragraph: that people are afraid to write about sensitive, personal, private topics in the public eye? Context matters. If this was an article about the relative merits of monads in Haskell vs OCaml I would have taken no issue - criticize away. It wasn't; it was another human being pouring their feelings out in long form. "I could have gotten the same message in about 30% of the words" is selfish. Who cares what the commenter wanted, again, in _this context_. The commenter feels better, the author and others who might be in the same shoes feel worse, and on the cycle goes. This still raises my hackles 10 hours later.
- ams6110 11y ago
  The problem is I could not finish this rambling stream of consciousness. I bailed and went to the comments so I could have some idea of what it was about and whether it would be worth slogging through.
- pzone 11y ago
  There is a clear problem with this post: it is rambling and unfocused. The parent comment engineered a solution to this problem: edit the post. Where's the disrespect? A major theme of the blog post itself is that how the author sees problems everywhere and wants to make things better.

jbyers 11y ago

Too long? Don't read it. This is emotionally charged territory for the author. Respect it, and respect him. It takes courage to write like this in public.

kough 11y ago
No need for the abrasive tone, the GP was simply offering constructive criticism. Does that not have a place in your idea of respect? If not, why not?
- PeCaN 11y ago
  Just for the record, I didn't consider the parent's tone to be abrasive at all.
- jbyers 11y ago
  I found the criticism both non-constructive and selfish. The commenter is welcome to their opinion, but in _this context_ does it need to be said? Has the commenter added value or further reinforced what the author says in the first paragraph: that people are afraid to write about sensitive, personal, private topics in the public eye? Context matters. If this was an article about the relative merits of monads in Haskell vs OCaml I would have taken no issue - criticize away. It wasn't; it was another human being pouring their feelings out in long form. "I could have gotten the same message in about 30% of the words" is selfish. Who cares what the commenter wanted, again, in _this context_. The commenter feels better, the author and others who might be in the same shoes feel worse, and on the cycle goes. This still raises my hackles 10 hours later.
ams6110 11y ago
The problem is I could not finish this rambling stream of consciousness. I bailed and went to the comments so I could have some idea of what it was about and whether it would be worth slogging through.
pzone 11y ago
There is a clear problem with this post: it is rambling and unfocused. The parent comment engineered a solution to this problem: edit the post. Where's the disrespect? A major theme of the blog post itself is that how the author sees problems everywhere and wants to make things better.