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Honestly, I had some amazing times at my school (upstate hippy dippy liberal arts college where I majored in computer science, creative writing, and recreationa

Honestly, I had some amazing times at my school (upstate hippy dippy liberal arts college where I majored in computer science, creative writing, and recreational cannabis inhalation) but I much prefer socializing and meeting new people in the city the author and I live in. There's just such a huge variance of people, interests, and scenes that it's very easy to make new friends (in my experience, YMMV). Making close friends is a lot harder. But I feel making the whole process through an app and "scheduled" really takes away from the organic means one builds lasting friendships with. "That would make living in New York more like living in a small college town, where I could walk down to a local bar on a whim and expect to bump into a handful of close friends. " You can do this if you start chatting up people at the bar? Or frequent an establishment where people you enjoy being around go (gallery, hacker space, whatever) I think you have the seed of an interesting idea, but my gut reaction to a lot of the friendship / dating apps is that they are solving problems a person can solve on their own if they are willing to do so.

baron816 11y ago
The problem with trying to make friends "on your own" is that it's really uncomfortable. For many, chatting up someone at the bar is uncomfortable to begin with, but then asking them to hang out on a "friend date" later on is so much worse. The great thing about Krewe is that you have a group dynamic, which is much more comfortable since you're not forced to maintain a long conversation and there are no confused intentions. A person with the right personality will always be able to make lots of friends, but for the rest of us, it's much more difficult and frankly, might not even happen. 20% of Americans say they're lonely and the number of close friendships we have has been falling for years.
- toomuchtodo 11y ago
  > The problem with trying to make friends "on your own" is that it's really uncomfortable. Social interactions and relationships take effort, as well as nurturing. If you're uncomfortable making the attempt, like any skill, you will get better the more you try at it. An app or website is not going to make socializing any easier. If anything, it will handicap you further.

baron816 11y ago

The problem with trying to make friends "on your own" is that it's really uncomfortable. For many, chatting up someone at the bar is uncomfortable to begin with, but then asking them to hang out on a "friend date" later on is so much worse. The great thing about Krewe is that you have a group dynamic, which is much more comfortable since you're not forced to maintain a long conversation and there are no confused intentions. A person with the right personality will always be able to make lots of friends, but for the rest of us, it's much more difficult and frankly, might not even happen. 20% of Americans say they're lonely and the number of close friendships we have has been falling for years.

toomuchtodo 11y ago
> The problem with trying to make friends "on your own" is that it's really uncomfortable. Social interactions and relationships take effort, as well as nurturing. If you're uncomfortable making the attempt, like any skill, you will get better the more you try at it. An app or website is not going to make socializing any easier. If anything, it will handicap you further.