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Because the general rule is that you can't loan money to friends. Either it is a gift which may be repaid back, or the friendship gets put under extreme stress
by Lawtonfogle 11y ago
Because the general rule is that you can't loan money to friends. Either it is a gift which may be repaid back, or the friendship gets put under extreme stress.
It may not be logical, but I accept it as one of the quirks of human behavior. Similar to how pointing out the economic nature of some relationships and interactions is often considered creepy and anti-social (for example, pointing out how certain commonly assumed altruistic behaviors are not altruistic).
- SilasX 11y agoThe legal structuring of the loan isn't relevant to the criticism -- as you note, even treating it as a gift which may be repaid would start the friend on an upward spiral, if that $100 is really is what's holding them back. But that just proves the broader point: it's not the mere $100 that's holding them up; it rarely is. Rather, it's the practice of not thinking long term, and not accumulating savings even when you have clear opportunities.
- cableshaft 11y agoThere's more people than you think that would be put on edge accepting that money. Either they're too proud to accept help from their friends, or they constantly feel guilty whenever they see their friend for not paying it back already (hell, I get that way just for forgetting to bring back my friend's DVD each time I go to an event he attends). Regardless of the terms of repayment (even if there are no terms), it adds stress to future encounters, and they may outright refuse it out of principle anyway.