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This sounds good, but it's not true in reality. Couples rarely see eye to eye on 100% of topics, so in a stable relationship, many things become a compromise of
by nkohari 17y ago
This sounds good, but it's not true in reality. Couples rarely see eye to eye on 100% of topics, so in a stable relationship, many things become a compromise of sorts.
Everyone should feel fulfilled by sex, but that doesn't mean that the woman should be expected to do depraved sex acts that she's uncomfortable with, just like the man shouldn't be expected to spread rose petals on the bed and sing sonnets each time.
- yummyfajitas 17y agoIf a couple isn't in the same ballpark on sex, they should probably not be a couple. If a woman really wants rose petals/sonnets, she shouldn't have to wait for her birthday to get it. It's hardly an unreasonable request every 1-2 weeks. And if her partner can't give it to her, she should move on.
- sabat 17y agoIt doesn't need to be such a point of contention and resentment, though -- the author of the article writes as if sex is a begrudging gift, and that the way she happens to view sex is the way we men need to learn to see it. In short: emotionally she's about 11 years old.
- electromagnetic 17y agoAgreed, the author isn't sexually mature. I think I was more sexually mature when I was 13 than the author appears to be. Sex is a partnership. It's (generally) two people and (generally) one bed. If your sex life isn't to people participating, it isn't sex. The author sounds like she's a 'lays down and take it' kind of 'lover', which gives me the shudders. Sex is a lot of things, but non-participating in it is IMHO akin to trying to be raped. It's nonsensical, and it IMHO sounds like non-consensual sex. I clearly don't comprehend it, but perhaps that's because when I wasn't even sexually developed I was aware of what sex was supposed to be.