You are absolutely right that you should speak up if something bad is happening to you. For example, if someone is smacking you in the face, you should speak u

You are absolutely right that you should speak up if something bad is happening to you. For example, if someone is smacking you in the face, you should speak up about it. But that person shouldn't be smacking you in the face in the first place. The author's complaint about porn is that it makes a lot of people think that unacceptable behavior is acceptable. I know I only have anecdotal evidence to back it up, but I went to a boarding school where a couple of guys had a pool going about which one of them could cum on their girlfriend's face first. The reason they had a pool going is that all of them knew their girlfriends wouldn't be cool with it. There definitely exists a class of men who do shitty, immature things in things in the bedroom. Don't blame the victim.