You try and do your best. I think living together helps so that you can try to time box time together more easily. I did it along with having a first child with

You try and do your best. I think living together helps so that you can try to time box time together more easily. I did it along with having a first child with my S/O and it was incredibly difficult all around. A year after ultimately closing up shop after two years of work we are still dealing with leftover stuff from the startup. Make sure your S/O is onboard. If it is a serious relationship you owe it to them. If they are not you have some hard choices to make.