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Seriously. I know two people who are real "Aspies" and they put all of the self-diagnosed jerks to shame. You don't know awkward until you've hung out with the

• electromagnetic 17y ago
  I've seen some very high-functioning and low-functioning people with Aspergers, yet even though I'm rather socially mal-adjusted and am seriously not a group-person, I can't compare myself to an "Aspie" after having taken psychology and sociology for years. It's still a night-and-day difference if you know what you're looking at. I think the true issue with these self-diagnosed "Aspies" is that they truly have no clue, they just know something is wrong with them socially and want to attach a name to it that's not 'anti-social'. These people rarely have the social issues that a real "Aspie" does; IE they lose most of their social-awkwardness on a one-on-one basis. Like I said, I've met "Aspies" and they're generally as awkward one-on-one as they are in a group. They don't read many of the physical clues that allow seamless conversation, so they tend to wait awkwardly long at the end as if they're waiting to see the speaker has finished. It's almost like a satellite-link on a news program, there's always that 3-second pause between one person talking and the other responding. I'm anti-social in groups. I simply dislike large gatherings of people I don't know much (even work colleagues), however one-on-one or in a group I'm fine and talkative. I've been at family gatherings where there's easy been upwards of 100 people in an area no bigger than a large yard where the population density could be measured in the square-foot. Yet I'm sociable, it's not that I can't socialise, it's that much of the time I'm simply unwilling.