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I no longer care if the men on HN don't like me
- dmschulman 11y agoNice clickbait title... I certainly fell for it. The post has nothing to do with HN users but VCs in SV in general.
- dudul 11y agoSame, got tricked into it.
- sarahnadav 11y agowasn't a trick- see above. I just didn't call out this forum
- sarahnadav 11y agothe post has everything to do with men here. As a woman, HN is a really unfriendly place. Of all the places- and all the traction that my post "VCs don't compare me to your wife" got. HN was the only forum where I got attacked and trolled mercilessly https://medium.com/life-tips/vcs-don-t-compare-me-to-your-wife-just-don-t-9dc2c8c1ac93#.wos3odp6n https://medium.com/life-tips/vcs-don-t-compare-me-to-your-wi...
- dudul 11y ago"attacked and trolled" you mean the 2016 equivalent of "disagreed with"?
- stray 11y agoI just read through all the responses to all her comments and the whole "VCs, don't compare me to your wife" thread -- and I see nothing that even resembles an attack. Even the disagreements are extremely mild. There were a couple people who asked for a chat transcript to put a statement in context. Maybe "attacked and trolled" means being asked for proof.
- sarahnadav 11y agoI went back and looked at it- you can see it here. The majority of the worst comments were actually flagged and delted. So what you see now is nothing like what the conversation was like in real time https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11105161 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11105161
- dmschulman 11y agoI was coming from the fact that your Medium article is titled very differently than the title of your link on HN. While I've not had the same experiences as you in terms of comment feedback (full disclosure: I'm a man), I would say that HN is a much more high-minded community than other popular destinations on the internet. That doesn't excuse any behavior obviously, but I've seen many instances of outright misogynistic comments and hateful no-content replies get downvoted consistently on HN.
- sarahnadav 11y agoActually, in the article- the "very vocal minority who are extremely critical" were men from HN. Almost exclusively. The worst attacks and most vicious criticisms came from the reaction from men here
- stray 11y agoI get a fair amount of criticism from men too -- in fact, every overt attack and criticism I get comes from men. I seriously doubt it's because I'm a woman though.
- dmschulman 11y agoCan you link to these threads? I didn't see these attacks you describe in any of the comments on your HN submissions. EDIT: I'm not trying to be a jerk or anything, I'm just genuinely curious since sexist/mean responses go against what I generally observe in HN comments.
- gnarbarian 11y agoMany people wrongly think disagreement and criticism IS sexism and harassment.
- sarahnadav 11y agoHere is the link https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11105161 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11105161 I reviewed it and the worst comments were flagged, deleted and removed