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"Moderated dating" is an interesting idea by itself. Where both sides have to conform to a very strict etiquette (platform rules), until they both decide to mo
by guard-of-terra 11y ago
"Moderated dating" is an interesting idea by itself.
Where both sides have to conform to a very strict etiquette (platform rules), until they both decide to move their relationship to next level anyway. I can see how it can appeal to some people.
- noir_lord 11y agoThat is what a chaperone was in thethe past, many cultures still have that set of rules thing until a certain point.
- _0ffh 11y agoI think a chaperone is primarily a safeguard against indiscretions. Their raison d'etre is to make sure nobody damages the goods before you have decided on a suitable match for your daughter. Which I find rather archaic.
- knughit 11y agoChaperon protects social values. Values can and often should change, but the chaperon is a tool that isn't as good or bad as the value it protects.
- zimpenfish 11y agoSeems like eHarmony might agree with you. http://www.eharmony.co.uk/ehplus/ http://www.eharmony.co.uk/ehplus/
- _0ffh 11y agoSeems a bit counterproductive to me! Why would you choose to not have information about the other party, when you are trying to evaluate them?
- guard-of-terra 11y agoBecause you don't want to disclose your information.
- _0ffh 11y agoSo you are saying that I would want to use a "moderated dating" platform if I needed a very strict etiquette in order to conceal that I was a dick? <s>Sounds like an attractive place to me!</s>
- Jtsummers 11y agoAll dating sites are moderated, to some degree. At least the mainstream ones. I can't think of one where you start by posting your home phone and address and full name. You start by sending messages, establish a relationship. Then you elevate it to messaging/calling via other platforms or real world meetings at your own pace. It's not for concealing that you're a dick (well, it could be), it's more for protecting you from who knows how many people with who knows what intentions. It's not a guarantee, but it's a filter that works fairly well.
- _0ffh 11y agoHow could this protect anyone from anything worse than the occasional verbal abuse? Real bad people with real bad intentions will most certainly not be frustrated by some automatic word filter or a ban on dick pics. They will probably be the /last/ ones to do anything obviously fishy. You just can't be a sneaky bastard luring in innocent victims and an obvious prick at the same time. Unless you are doing some amazingly charismatic virtuoso double bluffing, I suppose. Or you're just looking for a willing victim looking for a perp. I think the whole idea is beyond stupid.
- philh 11y agoIf you don't trust your evaluation function to be optimizing for your actual values.
- lmm 11y agoI remember an interesting piece on the OKCupid blog where they said that they'd blanked out profile pictures for a special event (so people had to just look at what each other had written), and people who went on dates during that event rated their dates much higher.
- makomk 11y agoOne of the problems with this is that platforms have an incentive to use the platform rules for monetization - for example, by charging per message and restricting the ability to bypass the platform.