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To address the other comments I'm seeing... I don't get it just because he might not want to be found doesn't mean that is what is actually happening. > I con

by bargl 11y ago

To address the other comments I'm seeing... I don't get it just because he might not want to be found doesn't mean that is what is actually happening. > I contacted the Human Resources at Pagar.me, the company i have worked with him, i'll try to get his house phonenumber. He worked with him so I'm guessing he knows him in real life. Which also means he's probably a better judge of whether or not Eric would want to be found then someone who just decided this was a good soapbox to stand on. Personally if something happened to me and I had a BUNCH of people come looking for me I'd be touched. If I wanted to disappear I'd also make that pretty clear with a, "Hey going off the grid" message. Now that's not to say you don't have the right to just up and leave, you should be able to, but people who care have the right to reach out and try to get in touch with you. Sure it can be an invasion of privacy but it all depends on Eric. How does he feel about this? No one here can tell it depends on how HE would react. Every other answer (including mine) is projecting on how you'd feel if you had hundreds of people trying to find you. I personally prefer to live in a world where people come looking for me when I disappear rather then in a world where people say, oh man haven't seen him in a while, he must have built a bunker in the woods and disapeared. EVEN if I wanted to disappear and you came to find me I'd be kinda thankful. It also completely depends on intent, how well you know someone (which at least one person in that thread worked with him), and the fact that you aren't trying to harm them in any way. That is ALL predicated on the fact that this is not witch hunting. TenHundfeld summed it up better than I can. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11135414 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11135414

VonGuard 11y ago
A friend of mine in a communal living situation once got sick and stayed in his room for days. We did not see him at all, and his door was closed. The den mother of the place, a SUPER paranoid woman, kept telling us to leave him be, let him have his space, that he was fine. Day 3, we busted down the door and found him unconscious, dehydrated, nearly dead, all from the freaking flu he just wouldn't take care of. Took him to the hospital and pumped him full of fluid and he was fine. I'm very glad we were nosey and did not just "let him be."

by bargl 11y ago

VonGuard 11y ago

A friend of mine in a communal living situation once got sick and stayed in his room for days. We did not see him at all, and his door was closed. The den mother of the place, a SUPER paranoid woman, kept telling us to leave him be, let him have his space, that he was fine. Day 3, we busted down the door and found him unconscious, dehydrated, nearly dead, all from the freaking flu he just wouldn't take care of. Took him to the hospital and pumped him full of fluid and he was fine. I'm very glad we were nosey and did not just "let him be."