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Given a healthy parent-child relationship, things would probably have been mended again a few days later. If she realizes that, I don't see why that last goodby

Given a healthy parent-child relationship, things would probably have been mended again a few days later. If she realizes that, I don't see why that last goodbye should be such a regret: it is a normal and essential part of life together to fight. In fact, you might even view such a thing as a shining example of the way you and your parents loved each other: despite strong emotions, despite your mutual passions for life clashing, you know that you would still reconcile, because you loved each other.

scott_s 17y ago
As wallflower said, try experiencing it. You're giving a rational explanation that is probably correct. But emotions are not rational, and I know I would probably be devastated if that happened to me. (Then again, I don't get into shouting matches.)
- Confusion 17y ago
  You don't need to experience a particular kind of situation to know in what entirely different ways people can respond to situations. Moreover, I don't think of my comment as a 'rational explanation'. I don't just think you can think about a situation in multiple ways, I am sure that you should feel about a situation in multiple ways. Being able to see, and choosing to feel, the brightest side in each situation is the only thing that can help someone cope with an absurd, unjust, world. Otherwise, you're just a victim of the emotions society presses upon you. When the last thing you did was shout, you are supposed to feel guilty. Doesn't every magazine say that; don't movies depict it? Thinking freely and ridding yourself of the cultural baggage also enables you to feel differently. Still sad, but with a bright edge, remembering the promises that lay hidden in that last argument.
  - scott_s 17y ago
    With time, sure. But even the first few years, I'd expect most people would feel bad about it. I don't see any cultural influence in that. It's how we work.

scott_s 17y ago

As wallflower said, try experiencing it. You're giving a rational explanation that is probably correct. But emotions are not rational, and I know I would probably be devastated if that happened to me. (Then again, I don't get into shouting matches.)

Confusion 17y ago
You don't need to experience a particular kind of situation to know in what entirely different ways people can respond to situations. Moreover, I don't think of my comment as a 'rational explanation'. I don't just think you can think about a situation in multiple ways, I am sure that you should feel about a situation in multiple ways. Being able to see, and choosing to feel, the brightest side in each situation is the only thing that can help someone cope with an absurd, unjust, world. Otherwise, you're just a victim of the emotions society presses upon you. When the last thing you did was shout, you are supposed to feel guilty. Doesn't every magazine say that; don't movies depict it? Thinking freely and ridding yourself of the cultural baggage also enables you to feel differently. Still sad, but with a bright edge, remembering the promises that lay hidden in that last argument.
- scott_s 17y ago
  With time, sure. But even the first few years, I'd expect most people would feel bad about it. I don't see any cultural influence in that. It's how we work.