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Online dating still requires you to be in a location with an extremely large population of single women. It doesn't matter if you visit the one bar or OKCupid i

by ahh 11y ago

Online dating still requires you to be in a location with an extremely large population of single women. It doesn't matter if you visit the one bar or OKCupid if you've already asked out and been rejected by the only three eligible people in your zip code. You need a large enough population to successfully find a match, and the only place to find large populations of single women are major cities. (And a tiny fraction of cities at that--I chose poorly here and very much regret it.) Basically, when it comes to dating it doesn't matter if you live in Issaquah (15 miles from Seattle) or Othello (180 miles from Seattle.) In neither case would anyone who lives in Seattle be bothered to go out on a date with you.

jes 11y ago
With respect, I'm struggling a bit with your last paragraph. I live in Kirkland and I'm dating a woman who lives in West Seattle. We're older, but it's not like we're people who couldn't easily date other people who lived closer if we wished to do so. I wish you success.
madengr 11y ago
Move to DC. The amount of single woman is crazy.
- ahh 11y ago
  Yeah, I know that now. Too late to move at this point, I have two dogs , own a home in the city, have an established career...moving would be incredibly expensive and risky. Going back to any previous move I made in the past, I'd never consider anything other than DC, New York, or Austin (perhaps a few others in the South, but I don't know the area too well.) Anywhere on the West Coast is a cripplingly bad decision.
  - chillwaves 11y ago
    As someone who lives in DC and always wanted to live in a west coast city, if only for a little while, I wonder if this is "grass is greener" syndrome or maybe DC really is as good as it gets? I did not enjoy NYC. Too dirty, too busy, too crowded.
    - mixmastamyk 11y ago
      The weather is great, but it's a dude ranch, and theres not many European-style city amenities.

by ahh 11y ago

jes 11y ago

With respect, I'm struggling a bit with your last paragraph. I live in Kirkland and I'm dating a woman who lives in West Seattle. We're older, but it's not like we're people who couldn't easily date other people who lived closer if we wished to do so. I wish you success.

madengr 11y ago

Move to DC. The amount of single woman is crazy.

ahh 11y ago
Yeah, I know that now. Too late to move at this point, I have two dogs , own a home in the city, have an established career...moving would be incredibly expensive and risky. Going back to any previous move I made in the past, I'd never consider anything other than DC, New York, or Austin (perhaps a few others in the South, but I don't know the area too well.) Anywhere on the West Coast is a cripplingly bad decision.
- chillwaves 11y ago
  As someone who lives in DC and always wanted to live in a west coast city, if only for a little while, I wonder if this is "grass is greener" syndrome or maybe DC really is as good as it gets? I did not enjoy NYC. Too dirty, too busy, too crowded.
  - mixmastamyk 11y ago
    The weather is great, but it's a dude ranch, and theres not many European-style city amenities.