Yeah, it's all about them. If they're into it, awesome, but in my personal experience the people I dated were very much used to a standard of living, and had so

Yeah, it's all about them. If they're into it, awesome, but in my personal experience the people I dated were very much used to a standard of living, and had some expectations of my contributions to uphold an image. But this journey is ultimately up to you. You start out by asking yourself what do you truly find valuable? Are all of these things you've collected simply working together because in combination they've found some local maxima to sustain your current life? One thing I've found is that even if the people you knew before aren't available to make the transition, there are plenty people on the other side that will know you for who and what you are to them. Taking a stand and fighting for your change and growth takes some guts, and people find that admirable. Dating has also never been better because you both immediately enter into these relationships without pretense.