I agree, but I think stepping outside the problem is necessary here. Not in defense of the VC, but for solving the problem. The VC is projecting here. He has a

I agree, but I think stepping outside the problem is necessary here. Not in defense of the VC, but for solving the problem. The VC is projecting here. He has a family, his work requires being on nearly 24/7, and he cannot imagine having kids and his stressful career without his wife taking care of the domestic duties full-time. He's looking to fund entrepreneurs with similar commitments to their work. The sexist assumptions I think the VC is making here: Married men have a wife like his, taking care of domestic duties so they have more time for work. Married women at this caliber do not have a stay-at-home spouse, they will need to spend more of their time away from work. There may be underlying concern about more children and that potential impact, too. While biases significantly lower efficiency, it's a deeply rooted part of the human brain. Quick judgements made all the time based on years of interpreting patterns. I do think VC's like this lose out on great talent because of their biases. Unfortunately, the onus is on OP to allay the concerns of investors even in the face of an uncouth line of questioning. While I liked OP's article and it is commendable to push for change for those who come later, there is also a practicality for the here and now. A greater attempt at diplomacy in the face of prejudice is a more productive way forward. Understanding WHY people are asking what they are asking is often more important than taking statements at face value. Answering their questions by drawing parallels within their own prejudices and biases goes a long way.