Everyone agrees that X is an offensive asshole? Is that the case? Exactly what do you 'tolerate' then? The word only has meaning to the extent that it is accept

Everyone agrees that X is an offensive asshole? Is that the case? Exactly what do you 'tolerate' then? The word only has meaning to the extent that it is acceptance of speech that the tolerator finds offensive. Perhaps you'd be happy if we junked the concept?