I don't think that's true at all. In fact, one of the primary complaints I see all the time is that "the patriarchy" implies all men are responsible for whateve

I don't think that's true at all. In fact, one of the primary complaints I see all the time is that "the patriarchy" implies all men are responsible for whatever the patriarchy is accused of. This isn't actually the case, that abstraction is to avoid what you're alleging: accusing an individual who is not malicious but rather a "victim of the patriarchy." However, even if your actions are the result of larger forces (patriarchy or otherwise), and not malice, you still need to be held personally responsible at some level. I just don't think we've found what that level is, yet.