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Did you get any physical intimacy during those two years?

• k__ 11y ago
  the first year, I did date a few people...
  • Trill-I-Am 11y ago
    I'm coming up on 8 months since I last had any physical intimacy, and it's making it a lot harder to be okay with being single. I pretty much assume "as long as you're getting occasional physical intimacy" is implied whenever anyone says "you should learn to be okay with being single."
    • k__ 11y ago
      In fact, for me, it is the other way around. When I was dating some girls, I couldn't concentrate on myself completely. I had to stop it and check what I really wanted, what I wanted "besides" not being alone. This lead to questioning my job and quit it too, haha. When I was single, and knew what I wanted, I didn't had to cry after someone who didn't accept me for who I wasn't, it became okay for me. I started to see the opinions, people have about me, simply as an opinion and not criticism about me as a person. Like some people don't like peanut butter, and I do, and it doesn't make peanut butter less delicious just because some people don't like it. I don't liked monogamy so I didn't date mono-people anymore. Then I started to project this into my work life as well. I looked what I wanted and threw away what I had. I didn't want a 9-5 job in an open office space, I wanted home office without people disturbing me while coding, without commuting etc. So I didn't accept any offers that didn't at least offered this. Now my life feels much better :)
      • Trill-I-Am 11y ago
        I can totally understand all that. I've had all the same thoughts before. But 6 months without sex or even a kiss is hard.
    • joesmo 11y ago
      I wouldn't say that's implied. That's why it's so difficult. EDIT: In fact, I'd say the opposite is implied.