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Yeesh. Finding a girlfriend in college and getting married not too long after graduation remains the best decision I've ever made. I don't know how people deal

by acheron 11y ago

Yeesh. Finding a girlfriend in college and getting married not too long after graduation remains the best decision I've ever made. I don't know how people deal with this shit.

Kiro 11y ago
I'm in the same spot but completely opposite at the same time. I'm happily single. I've had a lot of relationships, good and bad, but in the end nothing makes me more happy than being alone. I thought it would be a phase but it has been many years now and I don't miss a thing.
headgasket 11y ago
good one! Idem. And cherish that. I've booked the sitter and am choosing the restaurant for tomorrow evening; Sunday will be flowers and chocolates only for my better half; monday mornings are busy with kids... I read it somewhere, so no credit, but here's a good one all around in the age of massive profiling and asocial media (or should it be ass-social?). Flip-phone. No really. like nokia circa 2000. Plug in to your computer to sync your contacs. We make ourselves too available to the noise makers. What's on fb or that really matters to your happiness? Why pursue a relationship attempt with someone that cant be 100% available for a 30-secs phone call in crucial courtship phase, to book a date? Disconnect. It's all fake. Go and meet someone at the local library. Or the laundromat. Give him/her 5 full minutes of undivided attention(until he/she pulls out his/her phone, less likely to happen in front of a stranger, especially someone that shows genuine appreciation) and find him/her 3 qualities. Say his/her name. You'll be surprised that meaningful relationship are easier to develop in this paradigm of constant partial presence/absence.
CaptSpify 11y ago
I'm in the same boat, but it depends on who you are as a person. As stressful as dating can be, I can see the appeal vs being tied down. Some people even love the stress. I love being married, but some of my friends would be miserable if they were. To each their own!
- acheron 11y ago
  Oh sure. Obviously it works for some people. I'm just saying I don't understand it. :)
laretluval 11y ago
It's not just a choice. Many are in this situation because they tried your strategy and did not succeed.

by acheron 11y ago

Yeesh. Finding a girlfriend in college and getting married not too long after graduation remains the best decision I've ever made. I don't know how people deal with this shit.

Kiro 11y ago

I'm in the same spot but completely opposite at the same time. I'm happily single. I've had a lot of relationships, good and bad, but in the end nothing makes me more happy than being alone. I thought it would be a phase but it has been many years now and I don't miss a thing.

headgasket 11y ago

good one! Idem. And cherish that. I've booked the sitter and am choosing the restaurant for tomorrow evening; Sunday will be flowers and chocolates only for my better half; monday mornings are busy with kids... I read it somewhere, so no credit, but here's a good one all around in the age of massive profiling and asocial media (or should it be ass-social?). Flip-phone. No really. like nokia circa 2000. Plug in to your computer to sync your contacs. We make ourselves too available to the noise makers. What's on fb or that really matters to your happiness? Why pursue a relationship attempt with someone that cant be 100% available for a 30-secs phone call in crucial courtship phase, to book a date? Disconnect. It's all fake. Go and meet someone at the local library. Or the laundromat. Give him/her 5 full minutes of undivided attention(until he/she pulls out his/her phone, less likely to happen in front of a stranger, especially someone that shows genuine appreciation) and find him/her 3 qualities. Say his/her name. You'll be surprised that meaningful relationship are easier to develop in this paradigm of constant partial presence/absence.

CaptSpify 11y ago

I'm in the same boat, but it depends on who you are as a person. As stressful as dating can be, I can see the appeal vs being tied down. Some people even love the stress. I love being married, but some of my friends would be miserable if they were. To each their own!

acheron 11y ago
Oh sure. Obviously it works for some people. I'm just saying I don't understand it. :)

laretluval 11y ago

It's not just a choice. Many are in this situation because they tried your strategy and did not succeed.