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If it makes you feel any better, if you fight back you will get hit harder.

• bonesmoses 11y ago
  Potentially. I deterred many bullies because I simply didn't give any fucks. I grew up pretty poor and moved a lot, so I was always the new kid, and I also stood out because I usually immediately rose to the top of the class. That usually painted a target on my chest, but it didn't last long. The few times I was bullied was always the first few weeks after I arrived, and they quickly found out I would fight back pretty aggressively. Was that a "being poor" thing? Was it my notorious "punched a kid in the face for cutting in front of me in line when I was five" temper? Was it simply because I wasn't an "easy" mark? I can't rightfully say, but one of those things definitely reduced my propensity for being the target of bullies.
• byuu 11y ago
  You most certainly will, but if you manage to hurt them, they'll remember it the next time and be less likely to engage you in the first place. Bullies thrive on easy targets, and having no real consequences even when caught. Even if you lose horribly in a fight, you're the only person that can possibly inflict consequences. The physical pain wasn't even the worst of it. What hurts the most 20 years later is the fact that I stood there and did nothing. I'd have rather had memories of losing fights than having never fought at all. And honestly, getting kicked around by a full-grown adult at home was worse than anything another sixth grader could have dished out. I really don't know what I was so afraid of back then.
• justinclift 11y ago
  That's completely the opposite of my experience. It was only when I got completely fed up with it / gained the courage to well and truly fuck up the people that were bullying me... that they mostly stopped. I'd been learning martial arts for some years by then, which definitely helped.