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Is it only me that finds this type of obsessive-compulsive over-thinking somewhat bizarre; yet the author is trying to pass it off as the norm. Perhaps it's th
by kweks 11y ago
Is it only me that finds this type of obsessive-compulsive over-thinking somewhat bizarre; yet the author is trying to pass it off as the norm.
Perhaps it's the author's fretful nature and over analysis that drives women away?
I've found the following 'tactics' have worked quite well:
- If you want to send a message, send a message.
- If they don't reply, they're busy, or they don't want to speak with you.
How is it any more complicated than that?
- stuxnet79 11y agoIt is complicated because anecdotally I've found that if I respond to a woman's texts immediately, their interest drops dramatically regardless of how attracted to me they may have been in the first place. They say we should strive to "be ourselves" but me being punished for respecting another person's time makes me a bit cynical. Nowadays I make sure I wait 30 minutes minimum to respond to a text if I don't know you, and if I do respond it will be to ask you when is the best time to call. I hate texting - it is a weird and unnatural form of communication. By talking to you I can judge very quickly whether you are worth the effort.
- dajohnson89 11y agoWhat are you going to say next -- that love is really simple?
- kweks 11y agoNo, but there's no need to render it more complicated than it has to be. If the person on the other side loses interests because you are indeed being yourself, take it as an advantage. If they don't want to make the effort in the period when they should make the effort, they've saved you time. The flipside, of course, is that if you're somewhat like the author and have an fretting behavioural trait, you'll probably scare off a lot of people - which is still a good thing. The ones that stay are worth your time.