I understand more where you're coming from and I absolutely agree. Part of it is my vocabulary, specifically co-opting the word feedback. In public situations,

I understand more where you're coming from and I absolutely agree. Part of it is my vocabulary, specifically co-opting the word feedback. In public situations, like giving a presentation or a meeting with multiple parties, a huge part of empathy is understanding people's sensitivity to being ganged up on or feeling embarrassed in front of other. Politeness, specifically around being less brutally honest in group settings, is meant to deter this. Feedback, to me, is a 1-on-1 activity. Much closer to a heart-to-heart, which requires both the confidence to stand by your values and the vulnerability to be open to change.