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> So what if she was? It means that for a man who wants "practical, non-judgemental girls," the decision to call it quits is much easier in regards to a girl p

by sridca 11y ago

> So what if she was? It means that for a man who wants "practical, non-judgemental girls," the decision to call it quits is much easier in regards to a girl possessing an ego that is stereotypically judgemental of his identity in such a demonstrable fashion of her "trying to figure out how she was better than [him]....IN EVERY FACET OF LIFE".

argonaut 11y ago
And you know all this... from 15 minutes of chatting? You've never been a little nervous or said something stupid during a first date?
- sridca 11y ago
  As none of what NTDF9 wrote of his experience (and nowhere did he write that it was "15 minutes of chatting") even remotely indicates her being "a little nervous" or her having said "something stupid", your two loaded questions cannot be answered in their present form.
  - argonaut 11y ago
    Saying something stupid (like "programming stuff") is definitely something that someone might say because of nervousness.
    - sridca 11y ago
      That is such a bizarre characterization; where on this earth do you see the use of phrase "programming stuff" implicating its utterer being in a nervous state? Besides, you are ignoring the whole context that NTDF9 spelled out in his original post; it really pays to take that into consideration instead of reading something with layers of prejudiced interpretations.
      - argonaut 11y ago
        I have little reason to believe NTDF9's characterization of the encounter. Neither do you. These are just random internet opinions, keep that in mind. See: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11085463 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11085463
        sridca 11y ago
        > I have little reason to believe NTDF9's characterization of the encounter. Neither do you. I do not have such need to believe, as I take what the other person says at face value. Specifically NTDF9 gave a report of his date (a real-life event), and it is hardly a random internet opinion; he was the one who was there in flesh and blood body and only he could have assessed it better than anyone here (with their random internet opinions/ judgements). Not imposing my own opinions and biases on the other person -- and generally taking what they say at face value -- makes life much easier when it comes to interacting with people. Also, as random internet opinions don't spring out of nowhere -- they are reflective of the people who write them -- I wouldn't downplay it using the attribute "just." I started this whole thread after being bewildered by someone (vinceguidry) defending a girl who was just reported to be stereotypically judgemental of her date. He wasn't just expressing a random internet opinion, especially as I am familiar of this attitude among (some) men in the real-world. What people talk on the internet is reflective of what happens in the real-world.

by sridca 11y ago

argonaut 11y ago

And you know all this... from 15 minutes of chatting? You've never been a little nervous or said something stupid during a first date?

sridca 11y ago
As none of what NTDF9 wrote of his experience (and nowhere did he write that it was "15 minutes of chatting") even remotely indicates her being "a little nervous" or her having said "something stupid", your two loaded questions cannot be answered in their present form.
- argonaut 11y ago
  Saying something stupid (like "programming stuff") is definitely something that someone might say because of nervousness.
  - sridca 11y ago
    That is such a bizarre characterization; where on this earth do you see the use of phrase "programming stuff" implicating its utterer being in a nervous state? Besides, you are ignoring the whole context that NTDF9 spelled out in his original post; it really pays to take that into consideration instead of reading something with layers of prejudiced interpretations.
    - argonaut 11y ago
      I have little reason to believe NTDF9's characterization of the encounter. Neither do you. These are just random internet opinions, keep that in mind. See: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11085463 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11085463
      - sridca 11y ago
        > I have little reason to believe NTDF9's characterization of the encounter. Neither do you. I do not have such need to believe, as I take what the other person says at face value. Specifically NTDF9 gave a report of his date (a real-life event), and it is hardly a random internet opinion; he was the one who was there in flesh and blood body and only he could have assessed it better than anyone here (with their random internet opinions/ judgements). Not imposing my own opinions and biases on the other person -- and generally taking what they say at face value -- makes life much easier when it comes to interacting with people. Also, as random internet opinions don't spring out of nowhere -- they are reflective of the people who write them -- I wouldn't downplay it using the attribute "just." I started this whole thread after being bewildered by someone (vinceguidry) defending a girl who was just reported to be stereotypically judgemental of her date. He wasn't just expressing a random internet opinion, especially as I am familiar of this attitude among (some) men in the real-world. What people talk on the internet is reflective of what happens in the real-world.