Not sure why you chose girls/women for all of the examples here as if to cast them as extremely delicate butterflies that can't cope with the toughness that is

Not sure why you chose girls/women for all of the examples here as if to cast them as extremely delicate butterflies that can't cope with the toughness that is real life. As a father of 3 (11 yo girl, 9 yo boy, 6 yo girl) who actively works to teach all of my children programming (yes even the six year old); if someone is that delicate whether male or female then programming is not the right field. Any real programmer is going to eventually venture into unknown territory where they are unable to find an answer and they must learn to overcome. My 11 year old daughter and 9 year old son are both currently learning Java (so they can do Minecraft mods). Our process looks like this. 1) Dad assigns chapter or chapters to read and implement lessons. 2) Child reads chapter twice. Then child reads chapter a third time while working through the exercises. 3) If child encounters and issue they are told to search the book for an answer. 4) If at this point they still have a problem they can't solve they are allowed to ask me. At that point I NEVER tell them what is wrong. Instead I ask leading questions that helps them to find the answer on their own. Personally I wouldn't leave a RTFM comment because it is a waste of time and effort for all parties involved. However, if people leave the field due to these types of responses I think they are not well suited to being a programmer and the world has plenty of other great jobs to fill so they should consider pursuing a different passion.