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> Do the two of you have so little in common that all you have to talk about is your monotonous work day? Wow, so many assumptions there: 1) All they do in a
by jchendy 11y ago
> Do the two of you have so little in common that all you have to talk about is your monotonous work day?
Wow, so many assumptions there:
1) All they do in a given day is work
2) Their work is monotonous
3) These questions result in boring, factual answers (perhaps instead they lead to long, interesting conversations far away from the original topic)
Etc, etc. IMO, it's much more productive to take the time to think about reasons why something would work for somebody else rather than immediately dismiss what they do.
- Diederich 11y agoRight. The questions are (were) a gateway. What we talk about is certainly factual. And all too often our days have monotony in them. What's important is hearing how my wife feels about these things in her life, and she hears how I feel about those things in my life. I like to say that one of my biggest advantages at work is that I have an intelligent, invested and attentive counselor at home. My wife gives me tons of excellent work-related feedback, because she sees things differently than I do. And that's an incredibly valuable thing.