Honest question: Do you have children? I'm asking, because my wife and I had a similar routine earlier in our marriage – though perhaps less structured than yo

Honest question: Do you have children? I'm asking, because my wife and I had a similar routine earlier in our marriage – though perhaps less structured than yours. After we had a child, it's been harder to make time for that. If anything, it's more important to have a routine like this after becoming parents – but takes even more commitment to the idea. A friend of mine proposed a tongue-in-cheek test for parents to assess the health of their relationship. Have you and your spouse had a conversation in the last week about something other than the family (kids, elderly parents, etc.) or work? He meant it mostly as a joke, but there are definitely weeks where I look back and struggle to remember a real adult conversation with my wife about anything non-family, non-work, and lately non-politics. Anyway, I completely agree with you. Relationships require work, deliberate reflection, etc. You and your spouse will be different people when you're 35 than you were when you met at 25 (or whatever ages apply to you). You will grow and change. You can either grow apart or grow together.