Of course there is a proper way to love - to put the interest and development of the loved person in perspective always. That becomes complex as you learn to lo

Of course there is a proper way to love - to put the interest and development of the loved person in perspective always. That becomes complex as you learn to love every other person in whose life you're invested, and to love humanity in general. The complexity increases as you factor yourself into the whole picture by loving yourself. However, the 'activity of loving' does not occur in those distinct parts sequentially but simultaneously: they all form the activity. Love is not so much an emotion as it is a decision, an activity. It is work in itself, not a feeling. Really, love starts when the feeling diminishes in the face of reality.