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This is why we have verbal cues for conversation that indicate that the listener-now-speaker has understood what was said and is formulating a reply: "hmmm, I s
by intopieces 11y ago
This is why we have verbal cues for conversation that indicate that the listener-now-speaker has understood what was said and is formulating a reply: "hmmm, I see. But have you considered, perhaps, that..."
Conversation, as opposed to written text, has a lot of "filler" designed to give the conversant time to formulate their words.
Your implication is that people who respond "on time" have thought less about their response than those who do not. More likely, they have just a better intuition for conversation that allows it appear that way.
- BuckRogers 11y agoThat's a fair point but it's hard to take seriously the suggestion that someone who puts more thought into a response isn't likely to have a more insightful answer. I cut out most filler words out of my vocabulary years ago as I find them annoying but occasionally do use the "mhm" hum. That said, I will fully admit I'm a traditional nerd at heart and do lack intuition for nonsensical, "how's the weather" conversation. But if you want to speak about something meaningful? A conversation that would flip the roles and leave the majority of the public at a loss for words, you would probably prefer to speak with me. Most of my social interaction is at places where naturally curious people gather (like user groups / meetups). This is why in most situations I let most people do the talking, and I focus on questioning them. I can judge what level they're on intellectually and as a bonus, people like to talk about themselves.