I've definitely learned how to maintain priority with conversational no-ops when it's a situation I want/need to have my say. I dislike doing it, but it's a nec

I've definitely learned how to maintain priority with conversational no-ops when it's a situation I want/need to have my say. I dislike doing it, but it's a necessity given the bias our culture has towards fast conversation. Hopefully your spouse can learn that's your conversational style and adapt to it. Once my partner was made aware of it she started waiting longer before answering. She even apologized once for "cutting me off" during a long pause between thoughts!