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I am afraid to realise that 6 month of leave will not resurrect my passion for programming. But you are right, I should do it. One thing which brings chaos int

by pzzld 11y ago

I am afraid to realise that 6 month of leave will not resurrect my passion for programming. But you are right, I should do it. One thing which brings chaos into equation is that I am going to become a father in 5 months. This brings some emotional instability in my thinking. I am planning to take leave in 4-5 months. Some part of me still has a hope that it can be solved without quitting the job...

drKarl 11y ago
Ok... then I think you should consider switching jobs before being a father... otherwise you'll probably not do it for at least the first year. Also, it's great that you take 4-5 months of leave when the baby comes but don't think you'll have much time then to explore technologies, etc I know because I have a 5 month old baby... Also, consider that if you switch jobs you probably want to tell the new employer that you plan to have parental leave in 5 months, otherwise they might opose, being a new hire... Unless you did freelancing of course, but if you currently don't have much love for programming I don't think that is a good option. So you should consider, with your current knowledge and skills, and not enjoying programming, if you would enjoy better maybe being a software development manager, or a technical recruiter, or technical sales or business analyst?
partisan 11y ago
My advice is to be realistic about how much change you should handle all at once. You've been at this place 10 years so a job change alone would be a huge change for you, bring stress, uncertainty, doubts, regrets, etc. And you are going to be welcoming a child at the same time. This will be physically and emotionally exhausting for you and your partner. I went through almost the exact same situation except we had twins. I had a very tempting offer on the table when my wife disclosed that she was pregnant. I ended up staying and received paid leave and was able to stabilize myself after about 10 months such that I could move on to a new job.

by pzzld 11y ago

drKarl 11y ago

Ok... then I think you should consider switching jobs before being a father... otherwise you'll probably not do it for at least the first year. Also, it's great that you take 4-5 months of leave when the baby comes but don't think you'll have much time then to explore technologies, etc I know because I have a 5 month old baby... Also, consider that if you switch jobs you probably want to tell the new employer that you plan to have parental leave in 5 months, otherwise they might opose, being a new hire... Unless you did freelancing of course, but if you currently don't have much love for programming I don't think that is a good option. So you should consider, with your current knowledge and skills, and not enjoying programming, if you would enjoy better maybe being a software development manager, or a technical recruiter, or technical sales or business analyst?

partisan 11y ago

My advice is to be realistic about how much change you should handle all at once. You've been at this place 10 years so a job change alone would be a huge change for you, bring stress, uncertainty, doubts, regrets, etc. And you are going to be welcoming a child at the same time. This will be physically and emotionally exhausting for you and your partner. I went through almost the exact same situation except we had twins. I had a very tempting offer on the table when my wife disclosed that she was pregnant. I ended up staying and received paid leave and was able to stabilize myself after about 10 months such that I could move on to a new job.