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The breaker-upper generally wants to break up right? I mean, that's why they are the breaker-upper.
by overcast 11y ago
The breaker-upper generally wants to break up right? I mean, that's why they are the breaker-upper.
- Jtsummers 11y agoNo. Speaking from my somewhat limited experience with serious relationships [0], I can assure you that every time I broke up with a woman, it was not what I wanted. But when someone tells you something like, "I don't love you, and probably never will. We're ok, right?" Even though you may still desire to be with them (emotions are weird and annoying), there's no way to salvage that relationship. Breaking up can often be pre-emptive in dead-end or bad relationships to avoid further heartache. That doesn't make it desired by the breaker-upper. [0] Those lasting more than a few weeks, or with a more deeply felt emotional connection. Most likely also a desire to have a future with the partner, and not just a series of dates and screwing and then drifting away to find someone new.
- JadeNB 11y agoI agree that the language was a bit strange. I edited my post to try to clarify, but I think that Jtsummers (https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10933737 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=10933737 )'s reply is probably clearer than my edit.
- gherkin0 11y ago> The breaker-upper generally wants to break up right? I mean, that's why they are the breaker-upper. People can have mixed feelings about a relationship/SO, especially as the relationship ends.