I understand your point of view, but I feel like we often underestimate the level of harm that some types of misconduct can cause. A workplace should never tole

I understand your point of view, but I feel like we often underestimate the level of harm that some types of misconduct can cause. A workplace should never tolerate any type of harassment (and few workplaces do). It's not just the act itself, it's also the act in the current historical context (institutional inequality) and work context (workplace power inequality). Unfortunately the effects on OP are probably much bigger than we expect because of the way we are socialized, our culture, etc. Some might say that it's not the guy's fault that our society is so imbalanced, but I think we should be more conscious about this in general. To prevent the self-confidence issue, we could probably fix our education and general culture, but in the short term we could just not harass women at work. That's a pretty easy short term solution :)