Yes, it's a complex and mixed picture on both sides. I think one of the reasons I have a successful marriage is that when we first got together we had absolute

Yes, it's a complex and mixed picture on both sides. I think one of the reasons I have a successful marriage is that when we first got together we had absolutely nothing and were just struggling to survive. Everything we achieved has been an improvement that we have done together. Too many people nowadays seem to expect perfection from Day One and when that doesn't happen they take the easy way out by walking away. I find it interesting that there is a negative correlation between having a honeymoon and having a successful marriage. People get married with an enormous party and then go on the holiday of a lifetime. They come back and it's all downhill from that point. By contrast we had a 2-day coach mini-break to Scotland. I was Best Man (and my wife Matron of Honour) for our closest friends. Their honeymoon was three nights in a tent on the East Coast (of England). Another friend went into debt having a massive holiday in the Maldives, (against my advice - I was his Best Man also). He is now divorced. Compare and contrast.