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You feel like she is lacking self confidence??? That is just about the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. Her manager (aka 'someone with a disproportionate
by hluska 11y ago
You feel like she is lacking self confidence??? That is just about the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. Her manager (aka 'someone with a disproportionate amount of control over her career') asked her to sit on his lap, talked about how 'everyone' has an Asian fetish at some point, and asked her out for dinner alone. She tolerated it up to a point and then went to HR. How in any possible sense of the term can that indicate a lack of self confidence?? And why the hell are you blaming her and not the asshole who put her in that situation???
- y04nn 11y agoI'm trying to understand the behavior of the manager, there must be a rational explanation. He knew what it can lead him to. So for me, it may be that he was sexually attracted to her and she may not have shown enough rejection signs (cultural bias between the 2?). Also I may point that for me the only person in charge for my carrer is me, whatever is my position.
- fucking_tragedy 11y agoAnother rational explanation is that people get comfortable with and forget what their position of power has over people. That lack of awareness doesn't excuse it.
- hluska 11y agoThere is no rational explanation for the manager's behaviour. No manager should ever flirt with any direct reports. Ever. There is no way to rationalize the manager's actions. He acted terribly, but was given the opportunity to apologize and took it.
- Ended 11y ago"it may be that he was sexually attracted to her and she may not have shown enough rejection signs" The problem is that the onus should not be on her to show rejection signs. 'I'm sorry for mugging you, I thought you were just giving me that $50 - you didn't show enough rejection signs'