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> What happened next was that the offender moved on to someone else, and when they found someone who wasn't so confident as your mother, sexually assaulted her.

> What happened next was that the offender moved on to someone else, and when they found someone who wasn't so confident as your mother, sexually assaulted her. Uh, no, but I can see how your expectations have been molded to believe this is the only possible "thing that happened next". > but you should be careful that people don't accidentally think that you're ascribing blame to the victim. No accident. The "victim" shares the responsibility of standing up for themselves. This culture of victimhood has helped no one but Tumblr.

EliRivers 11y ago
Uh, no, but I can see how your expectations have been molded to believe this is the only possible "thing that happened next". Do you think your mother was so special that a man who attempted to sexually assault her tried it that one time only, on her only? While it's not impossible, the balance of probability very much suggests that a man willing to try this on your mother is willing to try this on other women as well. As an aside, this is a text interface. There is no need to represent in text exactly what comes out of your mouth. You need not begin your sentences with "Uh". Why do you place the word "victim" in quotes? Do you suggest that they are not victims?
fsloth 11y ago
"No accident. The "victim" shares the responsibility of standing up for themselves. This culture of victimhood has helped no one but Tumblr." A sexual harassment is analogous to a situation where a person hits another person, the other person fails to duck/block and gets hit in the face. I really can't see how the victim could be responsible for getting hurt. The fact that some people have practiced the art of boxing and could have avoided it easily does not change this situation. Person-to-person interaction is quite different from feeling victimized due to a general phenomena.
- mbrutsch 11y ago
  "You have a nice ass" == "a punch in the face"
  - fsloth 11y ago
    Psychological pain is as bad as physical. I was 'merely asked for a beer' once by a big hairy guy who had stalked me in a public swimming area. And I'm a straight male. I can tell you, sexual harassment is kinda like porn - you know what it is when you feel it.

EliRivers 11y ago

Uh, no, but I can see how your expectations have been molded to believe this is the only possible "thing that happened next". Do you think your mother was so special that a man who attempted to sexually assault her tried it that one time only, on her only? While it's not impossible, the balance of probability very much suggests that a man willing to try this on your mother is willing to try this on other women as well. As an aside, this is a text interface. There is no need to represent in text exactly what comes out of your mouth. You need not begin your sentences with "Uh". Why do you place the word "victim" in quotes? Do you suggest that they are not victims?

fsloth 11y ago

"No accident. The "victim" shares the responsibility of standing up for themselves. This culture of victimhood has helped no one but Tumblr." A sexual harassment is analogous to a situation where a person hits another person, the other person fails to duck/block and gets hit in the face. I really can't see how the victim could be responsible for getting hurt. The fact that some people have practiced the art of boxing and could have avoided it easily does not change this situation. Person-to-person interaction is quite different from feeling victimized due to a general phenomena.

mbrutsch 11y ago
"You have a nice ass" == "a punch in the face"
- fsloth 11y ago
  Psychological pain is as bad as physical. I was 'merely asked for a beer' once by a big hairy guy who had stalked me in a public swimming area. And I'm a straight male. I can tell you, sexual harassment is kinda like porn - you know what it is when you feel it.