One Paul Graham's more well known essays talks about how, in general, being cool and being a nerd both take a significant time investment, and to be good at one

One Paul Graham's more well known essays talks about how, in general, being cool and being a nerd both take a significant time investment, and to be good at one you have to forgo the other. http://paulgraham.com/nerds.html http://paulgraham.com/nerds.html