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If I had lived in a household like this, I would have become estranged from my parents the moment I could. It's authoritarian drivel. This is fodder for narciss

• ThrustVectoring 11y ago
  Yuuuup. The reason I didn't have a good relationship with my parents isn't because of any of the bullshit reasons given in the article. It's simply because my parents aren't healthy people to be around.
• Zikes 11y ago
  The article uses very broad strokes, making points which could certainly lend themselves to narcissistic parenting. One stand-out line is "[b]ut your child’s first allegiance must be to you, not to her best friend". It stresses very hard that the responsibility is on the child to adhere to the relationship as defined by the parent, whom is painted as infallible in this regard. Parents certainly take on a lot of responsibility as caregivers, but they're never perfect, and aren't always deserving of allegiance. Children are first and foremost people, and they deserve to be treated as such. They should be able to define their own relationships, even if that means forming close bonds of friendship at an early age. Maybe the friendships won't last, maybe they will, but that's not for anyone to decide but those involved. Taking that away from a kid, telling them their friendships are somehow superficial and don't matter because so much of it happens through "magic computer-boxen and apps" that seem to be the root of all of today's ills, well that sounds pretty domineering and narcissistic to me. If a parent wants a strong bond with their child, they can take all the steps they want to encourage the growth of that bond, but trying to force it, as with any other relationship, will only lead to the opposite result.